A solution for anxiety for a friend
As a parent and a friend of many other people who are parents, I can tell you that anxiety is high amongst our young people. From homework in first grade to playing three sports, being on the debate team, and maintaining high grades through high school, our young people are stressed.
I have a friend who’s daughter struggles with adapting to changes in routine of any kind. Together they are learning ways to help her recognize the signals of a panic attack and how to stop them before they start, but this began when she was just a little girl. Coping techniques with really young children are extremely difficult to teach.
She asked me if I would think about an aromatherapy solution that her daughter could carry to school and the teachers would allow her to actually use in class.
A balm stick seemed like a perfect solution. I mixed together a few essential oils that I knew would be calming as well as considering what the little girl thought was a nice smell for her.
She carries it with her everyday and while it doesn’t stave off all her difficult moments, it brings a sense of comfort to know that she always has something familiar in her pocket, if she needs it. The fragrance isn’t strong enough for the people around her to smell it either, so it won’t disturb any of her classmates.
Anxiety as a general issue
There are many ideas around calming anxiety for people. With herbalism it can become a rather complex map to navigate. If you are truly interested to travel a route that is more substantive and a more long term solution, feel free to send me an email and we can chat.
Today, the world is moving so fast, people feel like they can never keep up. No matter what the circumstances of your life, everyone feels the pressure. Stress is a relative issue and comparing yourself to others, generally won’t help.
It’s best to live in the moment, meditate daily, eat well, exercise if/when you can, 7-8 hours of sleep every night, and find ways to alleviate panic when it comes creeping at your door. These are daunting tasks and with children it can be incredibly hard to implement any of these strategies.
When that gripping, heavy feeling starts compressing over your ribs and heart and the bottom drops out of your stomach, perspective rapidly fades as the panic takes over. Always remember, for yourself or someone around you who is sliding into a full on anxiety attack that you are ok. You can breathe ok, your heart is still doing its job, and you are safe. Parts of your body may be unruly, but they are all still functioning and you will come out the other side, ok.
Small steps that can help young people with anxiety
The internet is rife with ideas about this. So I have gathered up a few that I think could work and are simple to prepare.
Chamomile ice pops are a great idea. Brew up a strong pot of chamomile tea, let it cool, blend it up with a few bananas (any fruit really) and freeze it into popsicle molds or ice cube trays. Eat one of these everyday and it may help calm your nervous system in a more general way.
Herbal teas are easy and can be bought at your local supermarket. Look for something with chamomile, catnip, lavender, lemon balm, skullcap, california poppy, and/or passionflower. You can also use these teas and herbs to make the ice pops I mentioned above.
Taking a deep breath…but more than one. With kids who are too little to get the whole deep breath idea, it’s nice to sit with them quietly and deep breathe yourself. Eventually it can help calm them, with the added bonus that you are calmer too. It’s easy and free, the best kind of solution!
When something seems too big to solve, visualize the goal first. Think about what it would feel like if you were in that moment. If it’s a big goal, or a big problem, write down the goal and then work backwards.
What are some big steps to take? Then write those down. Break those big steps into even smaller steps that seem reasonable to you. Everything starts with just one small step in the direction you want to go. The best way to navigate a complex route is through small steps that you can do.
Calming Balm Stick
When it comes to the balm stick, we are selling it in the store as Calm Yourself Salve Stick. While, I am happy to sell it, as is, I really like the idea of developing one based on the person who needs it. So, if you’re interested for yourself, or someone else you know who could benefit from a calming balm stick, let me know if you’d like it customized just for your needs, or you could just buy the one we have in our store.
The current scent could be described as a warm, vanillic, citrus type. It’s a gender-less odor and not too strong once applied. I would suggest rubbing it on the inside of the wrist or back of the hand.
I will be sharing the formula for this product during our Cyber/Herbal week promotion. Be sure to come back on Day 5 to check that out. If DIY just isn’t your thing, no worries, we will be offering a 50% sale that entire week, so you can grab one and try it for yourself (or on a guinea pig you know and love).
If you’re local to NJ, then Elemental Promise will be at two upcoming craft shows in the area. Come check us out and you can smell and see all our products before you decide if you want to buy!
Monroe High School Vendor Fair – November 17th 9a – 3p
Princeton Elks Lodge Winter Craft Fair – December 9th 12p – 4p
I hope to see you there.
As always, your feedback is appreciated, so don’t hesitate to reach out.